Top 25 issues which damage relationships

Relationships are hard.  We come into them with a lifetime of emotional baggage and often unhelpful relational habits and conflict styles.  Sometimes we are unaware of how damaging our patterns may be to relationships or, we know but feel helpless to stop it.  It is a...

Freedom from shame: The three keys

The tell-tale signs of shame According to leading shame researcher, Brene Brown, shame is an “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” Feelings of shame have been around since human beings first...

Hello shame (a personal letter)

As a Psychotherapist it is really important that I do the therapeutic work myself.  I wouldn't want to see a financial adviser who hadn't tried the strategies and made themselves some money.  Equally, I wouldn't expect my clients to come and see me if I didn't...
When pushing leads to falling

When pushing leads to falling

Breakfast wisdom.. At breakfast this morning I mentioned to my husband that I wasn’t sure what to write about for this blog post.  He asked me a simple question, “What has been a theme for you and your clients?”  Such wisdom at the breakfast table immediately...

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Are you getting enough Vitamin N?

Are you getting enough Vitamin N?

A few months ago I took some time to feed my soul - to sit by the river and to connect in as many ways as I could with the nature around me.  What I experienced, along with so many other humans over the history of our species, is that being in nature is a powerful way...

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No more lockdown Melbourne! 4 tips to make the most of it

No more lockdown Melbourne! 4 tips to make the most of it

Melbournians, we are on the way back!  No more five kilometres, no more two hours of exercise, no more four walls, no more isolation.  How do you want to emerge from lockdown?  Responses to our increased freedom are varied.  From worry and trepidation to flat out,...

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3 simple ways to manage lock down fatigue

3 simple ways to manage lock down fatigue

Fellow Melbournians, we are collectively fatigued.  I hear it day in and day out in my counselling and coaching practice.  I feel it in my body and mind.  I admire Melbournians immensely as I listen to our attempts to get on with it, re-frame, call on our resilience and empathise with others in the same boat.  Amidst that, many of us have friends and family in other states that are posting in social media feeds all the things we would love to take for granted again. 

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4 empowering questions to transform lock down 2.0

4 empowering questions to transform lock down 2.0

I don’t know of anyone who is delighted by the second lock down.  Perhaps they are out there but most of us are heartily sick of being restricted.  My heart sank when I heard the news. I briefly regressed to my childhood self and there was swearing and foot stomping. ...

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Coping with uncertainty: 3 essential practices

Coping with uncertainty: 3 essential practices

Uncertainty can really throw us.  We like to know what is coming so that we can be confident we can deal with it. Learning the art of coping with uncertainty is a valuable life skill.  If you can manage your thoughts and emotions when things are uncertain you will be...

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4 Steps to managing strong emotions

4 Steps to managing strong emotions

One of the most important skills we can learn is self soothing when under stress or in the midst of conflict.  Our fight or flight system works perfectly to keep us safe from actual danger and threats but it is also given to sending us false alarms.  Consider what...

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How to rise above suffering

How to rise above suffering

In seeking to understand my own sense of "broken-ness" I can often recognize that same suffering in others. I feel a great deal of compassion for that pain and, in the past, I have sought to alleviate the discomfort of others (and my own) in ways that have fostered an...

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