How do you stop arguments escalating? Arguments are a natural part of any relationship. They arise from misunderstandings, differing perspectives, and unaddressed feelings and needs. Simply by being human we are confronted with these unavoidable conditions. Luckily...
Is your Relationship stuck in a Distancer/Pursuer Pattern?
The distancer/pursuer pattern is a common relationship dynamic where one partner seeks more intimacy and connection (the pursuer), while the other seeks more autonomy and space (the distancer). While it can be evident in everyday interactions, it is more pronounced...
You need love and limits for healthy relationships
Healthy relationships are built on a foundation of love and limits (boundaries). Love provides the warmth, connection, and security that nourish relationships, while boundaries (or limits) establish the respect, autonomy, and individuality necessary for personal...
Strengthen your relationships with rupture and repair
Relationships, at their core, are dynamic journeys filled with ups and downs. The concept of rupture and repair is integral to understanding how relationships can evolve and strengthen through conflict and resolution. In this post, we explore how navigating these...
Conflict essentials: Navigating emotional needs and the role of fear
Conflicts are never solely about clashing opinions; they stem from deeper, unseen emotional currents. Understanding the submerged fears and unmet needs which are at the heart of conflict is essential to resolving these tensions. The Role of Fear and Unmet Needs...
Conflict essentials: The 2 things at the heart of all conflict
There are two things which are at the heart of all conflict. These two simple things are universal to all humans and all conflict. But, the simplest things in life are not necessarily the easiest to do something about. To illustrate the point that simple does not...
The 4 steps to make difficult conversations easier
We all need to have difficult conversations, either at work or in our personal lives, so having a strategy for difficult conversations is crucial to successful relationships. Imagine how your relationships could improve if you had a template you could use every time...
Dealing with relationship stress: Part 4 – Control what you can
Control what you can When things are difficult in your relationships, when the proverbial hits the fan, it is important to assess what you can realistically control. Then you can put your effort where you are likely to get the best results. All too often we spend too...
Why boundaries are so hard to keep
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful you may be having trouble setting boundaries. Setting boundaries is a crucial relational skill which enables you to manage your happiness, time and energy. Unfortunately, many of us are not taught how...
How to be a better listener for a better relationship
One of the most common reasons people seek couples therapy is to learn how to have better communication for a better relationship. We quickly discover that while the words are being said, the message is just not being received with any accuracy. What may start as a...
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Most of us are familiar with the term “red flags” and everyone has experienced them somewhere in their relationship history. Red flags are issues that signal problems in relationships which, left unaddressed, will eventually lead to relationship breakdown. Don’t get caught unaware…
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