Conflicts are never solely about clashing opinions; they stem from deeper, unseen emotional currents. Understanding the submerged fears and unmet needs which are at the heart of conflict is essential to resolving these tensions. The Role of Fear and Unmet Needs At the...
Conflict essentials: The 2 things at the heart of all conflict
There are two things which are at the heart of all conflict. These two simple things are universal to all humans and all conflict. But, the simplest things in life are not necessarily the easiest to do something about. To illustrate the point that simple does not...
The 4 steps to make difficult conversations easier
We all need to have difficult conversations, either at work or in our personal lives, so having a strategy for difficult conversations is crucial to successful relationships. Imagine how your relationships could improve if you had a template you could use every time...
Dealing with relationship stress: Part 4 – Control what you can
Control what you can When things are difficult in your relationships, when the proverbial hits the fan, it is important to assess what you can realistically control. Then you can put your effort where you are likely to get the best results. All too often we spend too...
Dealing with relationship stress: Part 3 – Understand your conflict style
Conflict is inevitable Nobody likes conflict, yet conflict is an inevitable part of relationships. In any relationship, there will be conflict at some point, even if it goes unsaid. Since you can't avoid conflict, it's important to know how to manage conflict...
Dealing with relationship stress: Part 2 – Stop negative thinking
Negative thinking is to be expected Negative thinking is a standard feature of the mind – no mind comes without it. On average your mind will think four times more negative thoughts than positive. This makes sense as a survival tool. It is your mind’s job to scan for...
Dealing with relationship stress: Part 1 – Manage your own stress response
Learn to manage your stress response with this proven technique Dealing with relationship stress is a challenge most of us will face at some point. When you experience conflict or difficulty, it is hard to keep calm, but things rarely go well if you can’t. Your...
Why boundaries are so hard to keep
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful you may be having trouble setting boundaries. Setting boundaries is a crucial relational skill which enables you to manage your happiness, time and energy. Unfortunately, many of us are not taught how...
When Christmas is complicated
It’s December already and I must find a Christmas tree in my new, unfamiliar suburb. Someone mentioned they had finished their Christmas shopping the other day and I realised I hadn’t even begun to think of buying presents. How did we get to December so fast?! Like...
Reduce conflict in 3 easy steps
Conflict is an often unwanted but unavoidable feature of being in a relationship. Not many people want to experience it, yet there can be great value in conflict. It is a necessary part of relationships that can stimulate change, growth, and new ways of being. When...
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Most of us are familiar with the term “red flags” and everyone has experienced them somewhere in their relationship history. Red flags are issues that signal problems in relationships which, left unaddressed, will eventually lead to relationship breakdown. Don’t get caught unaware…
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