The human mind is a negativity magnet. It’s not a personal character flaw, it's an evolutionary drive to survive. For survival you need to be on the look out for danger so your mind constantly scans for what could go wrong. This negativity bias stems back to when...
One of the most tricky things to learn is letting go. Letting go is a practice I find I have to continually come back to when I feel tense and locked into a fixed outcome. Society conditions us to be attached to outcomes. We are taught to tough it out, make things...
Human beings are purpose driven. Without being clear on our purpose we can feel lost, stuck and lack motivation. For many of us, part of our purpose is to grow and to help others. But what makes a person truly helpful? What qualities provide the conditions for...
Fellow Melbournians, we are collectively fatigued. I hear it day in and day out in my counselling and coaching practice. I feel it in my body and mind. I admire Melbournians immensely as I listen to our attempts to get on with it, re-frame, call on our resilience and empathise with others in the same boat. Amidst that, many of us have friends and family in other states that are posting in social media feeds all the things we would love to take for granted again.
In seeking to understand my own struggles, and those of my clients, I often recognise suffering in others. I feel a great deal of compassion for that pain and, in the past, I have sought to alleviate the discomfort in ways that may have fostered an avoidance of...
No one likes being stuck. We do anything to avoid it. We shop, eat, drink, scroll social media, watch YouTube clips, sleep with people we shouldn't, exercise too much, overwork ourselves. The list goes on. Take a moment to reflect and you'll soon recognise what you...
Uncertainty can really throw us. We like to know what is coming so that we can be confident we can deal with it. Learning the art of coping with uncertainty is a valuable life skill. If you can manage your thoughts and emotions when things are uncertain you will be...
One of the most important skills we can learn is self soothing when under stress or in the midst of conflict. Our fight or flight system works perfectly to keep us safe from actual danger and threats but it is also given to sending us false alarms. Consider what...
What I notice in my counselling work is, some of us seem to have developed a misconception we shouldn't acknowledge negative feelings. But negative feelings don't simply go away because we don't want them to be there. What reduces our ability to move forward is...
In seeking to understand my own sense of "broken-ness" I can often recognize that same suffering in others. I feel a great deal of compassion for that pain and, in the past, I have sought to alleviate the discomfort of others (and my own) in ways that have fostered an...
Having connected with some of the world’s leading relationship experts, Amy distils all that wisdom into bite sized relationship hacks – for better love, connection, conflict and communication.
(and their antidotes)
Most of us are familiar with the term “red flags” and everyone has experienced them somewhere in their relationship history. Red flags are issues that signal problems in relationships which, left unaddressed, will eventually lead to relationship breakdown. Don’t get caught unaware…
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