Top 25 issues which damage relationships

Relationships are hard.  We come into them with a lifetime of emotional baggage and often unhelpful relational habits and conflict styles.  Sometimes we are unaware of how damaging our patterns may be to relationships or, we know but feel helpless to stop it.  It is a...

Freedom from shame: The three keys

The tell-tale signs of shame According to leading shame researcher, Brene Brown, shame is an “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” Feelings of shame have been around since human beings first...

Hello shame (a personal letter)

As a Psychotherapist it is really important that I do the therapeutic work myself.  I wouldn't want to see a financial adviser who hadn't tried the strategies and made themselves some money.  Equally, I wouldn't expect my clients to come and see me if I didn't...
Hello shame (a personal letter)

Hello shame (a personal letter)

As a Psychotherapist it is really important that I do the therapeutic work myself.  I wouldn't want to see a financial adviser who hadn't tried the strategies and made themselves some money.  Equally, I wouldn't expect my clients to come and see me if I didn't...

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A profound practice to free yourself from emotional reactivity

A profound practice to free yourself from emotional reactivity

Have you ever had that feeling of emotional reactivity when you go from zero to one hundred in a matter of seconds?  We express this reactivity in different ways.  “I was so triggered”, “It just really got to me”,  “They made me so angry”.  It is a feeling of being...

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Feeling lost?  The path to clarity awaits…

Feeling lost? The path to clarity awaits…

Feeling lost brings up a combination of emotions that are often difficult to sit with and we often seek to avoid. These feelings may include confusion, disconnection, disempowerment, sadness and anxiety. But what if we can explore that sense of being “lost” as a...

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Can you crack the secret code in difficult emotions?

Can you crack the secret code in difficult emotions?

Successfully managing difficult emotions is one of the most challenging skills we can learn.  Have you ever logically known that you shouldn’t say what you’re about to say but you just can’t stop yourself?  You may know that you are making things worse but you feel...

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How to beat the negativity bias

How to beat the negativity bias

The human mind is a negativity magnet.  It’s not a personal character flaw, it's an evolutionary drive to survive.  For survival you need to be on the look out for danger so your mind constantly scans for what could go wrong.  This negativity bias stems back to when...

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The art of letting go

The art of letting go

One of the most tricky things to learn is letting go. Letting go is a practice I find I have to continually come back to when I feel tense and locked into a fixed outcome.  Society conditions us to be attached to outcomes.  We are taught to tough it out, make things...

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How to make compassion your superpower

How to make compassion your superpower

In seeking to understand my own struggles, and those of my clients, I often recognise suffering in others. I feel a great deal of compassion for that pain and, in the past, I have sought to alleviate the discomfort in ways that may have fostered an avoidance of...

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What to do when you are stuck

What to do when you are stuck

No one likes being stuck. We do anything to avoid it.  We shop, eat, drink, scroll social media, watch YouTube clips, sleep with people we shouldn't, exercise too much, overwork ourselves.  The list goes on.  Take a moment to reflect and you'll soon recognise what you...

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Coping with uncertainty: 3 essential practices

Coping with uncertainty: 3 essential practices

Uncertainty can really throw us.  We like to know what is coming so that we can be confident we can deal with it. Learning the art of coping with uncertainty is a valuable life skill.  If you can manage your thoughts and emotions when things are uncertain you will be...

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4 Steps to managing strong emotions

4 Steps to managing strong emotions

One of the most important skills we can learn is self soothing when under stress or in the midst of conflict.  Our fight or flight system works perfectly to keep us safe from actual danger and threats but it is also given to sending us false alarms.  Consider what...

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