Most people think emotional regulation means getting rid of uncomfortable feelings. Calming yourself down.Moving on.Staying “in control.” But true emotional regulation works in a very different — and often surprising — way. The paradox is this: the feelings we try...
From the moment we’re born, our nervous system begins learning one thing above all else — how safe it is to love and be loved. Those early lessons become the foundation of what psychologists call our attachment style — the internal map that guides how we see...
We all need to be held. It is a universal need that is both literal and metaphorical. We all hope for someone to have our back, to always be there for us no matter what. Our bodies are wired to relax and let go in the safety of a loving embrace. If, for whatever...
For too long, “man up” has been a phrase used to shut men down. It has encouraged them to hide their feelings, deny their pain, and measure their worth only through toughness and achievement. But real strength has never been about emotional silence. True strength is...
Fear isn’t always a stop sign—it might be pointing to your next step. Fear is a powerful force. It can stop us in our tracks, keep us playing small, or convince us that staying exactly where we are is the safest option. But what if fear isn’t just a signal to retreat...
In relationships—whether romantic, familial, or even professional—there’s often a quiet tug-of-war between your needs and those of the people around you. Most of us want to be generous, supportive, and kind. We want to show up for others and be someone they can rely...
Some people are naturally caring. You feel things deeply, notice when someone is struggling, and want to help ease their pain. Maybe you’re the one people turn to when they’re in crisis, or perhaps you find yourself worrying long after others have moved on. At first...
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I’ll get into a relationship when I’ve figured myself out”? Or maybe someone told you, “You need to work on yourself before you can be with anyone else.” There’s a popular myth in the world of self-development that you have to...
Most of us go to great lengths to avoid discomfort. We reach for certainty, soothing, or distraction—anything to quiet the unease. But what if discomfort wasn’t a problem to fix, but a message to pay attention to? What if it was less of a threat… and more of a guide?...
We all have moments where we react in ways that don’t quite make sense—feeling irrationally anxious, getting triggered by small things, or craving validation more than we’d like to admit. Often, these reactions aren’t just about the present moment. They stem from...
Having connected with some of the world’s leading relationship experts, Amy distils all that wisdom into bite sized relationship hacks – for better love, connection, conflict and communication.
(and their antidotes)
Most of us are familiar with the term “red flags” and everyone has experienced them somewhere in their relationship history. Red flags are issues that signal problems in relationships which, left unaddressed, will eventually lead to relationship breakdown. Don’t get caught unaware…
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